Don't get me wrong...I sincerely sympathize with the deceased victim's family in the death of the Catoosa County teen. What a tragedy they must be going through.
However, if the three teens had not been involved in criminal activity then this would not have happened. I sincerely believe that the parents of the two remaining teens should be arrested and prosecuted for bad parenting. If they had done their job and been involved in their child's activities, perhaps their child would not have been exposed to such temptations.
I regret that the homeowner felt threatened -- as would I have -- and had to resort to deadly force, But if you are not an invited guest into my home and/or stealing from me, the action taken by the homeowner was within reason.
There is a saying that goes, "Stop. There is nothing here worth dying for." Apparently, some still choose not to believe it.
This is a good time to advocate gun permits. If you do not have one, take the safety class and then register with the state so that should you ever encounter a threatening situation, as did this 69-year-old homeowner, you know how to handle yourself. I am legally licensed/certified to carry a handgun and it's always within my reach. My sincerest hope is that I will never have to use it, but we never know what tomorrow holds.
Get involved with your children, know what they are doing, know who their friends are...in other words, be a parent.
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This poor child is not even in the ground yet, show compassion. As a parent who lost a child who was 18 at the time, you really cannot relate. It a heart missing a piece that never heals.
As a parent of eight raised children, I can tell you this: "Good kids can come from bad families and bad kids can come from good families." Its called free will. You should not use such a tragedy to promote your pro gun stance
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I must say “It’s called free will” is a very scary comment coming from a parent of eight. When did parents of teenagers in their most influential years decide it was the job of the teens themselves to find positive influences and role models? It is very worrisome in the least that parents of all demographics these days believe that just because they “think” a young teen acts with the maturity of an adult that their job as a parent is done and it is up to the child to carve their future.
Three young teenagers and their families will be forever changed over trying to steal some scrap metal and the 69-year-old victim will have to live with fact he took one of their lives. Unfortunately, I guess this is what happens when we let society and “free will “ raise our children.
I believe Mr. Munger said it best, “Get involved with your children, know what they are doing, know who their friends are...in other words, be a parent.”
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Prosecuted for bad parenting. I have a few questions before we start locking up folks. Who’s to decide what defines bad parenting? And, what’s next, prosecuting parents for allowing their kids to become obese? What about bad grades or even yet, what if a child becomes pregnant? Are you proposing fines, jail time or both.
Lets face it folks. People have been making bad decisions since time began. It’s called choices, these young adults and the home owner all made choices.
Who am I to legislate parenting to anyone? Better yet, what qualifies me or anyone else to better parent anyone else’s child? You can blame the parents, society, the media or what ever brings you resolve in this matter but, bottom line is a young man’s life has ended and lives are forever changed.
I don’t have a solution but, I do not see prosecuting parents as a viable alternative to crime. All anyone of us can really do is raise them the best we can. Ultimately, we are all faced with choices and consequences. My prayers to all the individuals involved in this tragedy.
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When I was a younger man, I might have thought there was validity to his viewpoint. But as I grew older and as my kids did as well, I realized that a big part of being a good parent to a 17-year-old is to loosen your hold on the reins. This means that at times you won’t be with your child and you therefore won’t know for a certainty where your child is. You may think you know, but most kids lie (even though you taught them not to and disciplined them when they did) and they often lie for each other, too.
No matter how much you teach them and how tightly you hold the reins, there will be a time when they are on their own. If you do not allow them a certain amount of freedom while they are under your roof and loving discipline, you can be pretty confident that they won’t know what to do with freedom when they have it without parental correction and restraint.
As Mr. Pace said, "Good kids can come from bad families and bad kids can come from good families." To think otherwise is foolishness.