Remember The Widows On Mother's Day

Friday, May 9, 2014

Mother's day is almost here and churches all over the country will be honoring mothers during the Sunday morning worship service.  Once again, my heart breaks for all those mothers who are also widows, young and old, who will be recognized with honor as mothers and at the same time overlooked in their plight as widows. 

I wonder how many older widowed mothers will leave these worship services and return home to empty houses with no one to take them out to dinner or to even prepare a dinner for them.  Perhaps, they received a single stem rose as a token of honor as mothers in the worship service, but now they sit at their kitchen tables staring at it while they eat warmed up leftovers by themselves, as the token honor they received begins to sink in for being just that.

I wonder how many younger widowed mothers with young children will leave these worship services and return home to the mess that was left behind trying to get ready for the church services where they were honored as mothers.  The kids are still too young to help clean up all the mess themselves, and so, for the young widowed mother it is just another tough day like all other days. Where she woke up just as tired as she was the night before when she finally got the only break that ever comes to her at the end of each day, after all of the kids are in bed, as much cleaning as possible has been done, all of the lunches for school the next day have been prepared, clothes laid out, and she finally gets to collapse in bed and sleep.  And if it's an exceptional night, she might even get to sleep all the way through without any of her children waking her up. 

And the rose the young widowed mother received as a token honoring her as a mother, she forgot all about it after one of her kids grabbed it from her when she returned to her seat.   And by the time the service was over if the rose had survived it never made it home to be placed in a vase on the dinner table where she and her children all sat around eating the mother's day meal that she prepared for them, because they are all still too young to honor her in this way themselves.

In 1 Timothy 5:3 it says to, "Honor widows that are widows indeed."  One of the meanings of this word "honor, " according to Strong's Concordance is, "to honour, to have in honour, to revere, venerate."  In Matthew 15:17-18, Jesus says:  "You hypocrites! Isaiah was right when he prophesied about you: 18) “ ‘These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.  

It is easy to speak honor, whether it is to God or widowed mothers, but our actions will always give us away when it comes to whether our hearts are far or near.  If we only give honor in public places where we are being seen and heard giving it, but then when we come down off of the stage and the spot lights are no longer on us, the nearness of our hearts for the ones that we have spoken honor to with our lips will quickly know the truth.

May this "Mother's Day" be a day that also truly blesses and honors widowed mothers in the ways that God has clearly stated in his word that we should. 

Andy Mendonsa
Director 
Widows Harvest Ministries


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