My own high school years were often places of battles.. battles between teachers and myself.. battles with home, and self... If we knew, as educators, just what that child brings from home we might have a better idea and solutions. It is more then past time to discuss what is the home life of so many kids.. All ages.
There are circumstances in the child's life where he is, for the most part, an observer... If mom or mom and dad have on-going battles; if mom or dad drinks and perhaps hits family members; if a parent or relative is in prison or jail; if mom and/or dad do not pay attention, speak, praise all of these can add up to problems at school and in the community.
I read a statistic recently that said better then 90 percent of prison or jail populations were victims of abuse.
These kids that are hurt inside often strike out at objects in their worlds, ie teachers, police, neighbors and etc.. "Well, they must just are mean!" Hardly true. The hurt inside often has to find a way out and for some holding it inside even worse.. The 11-year-old girl using sharp objects to pierce her skin so that it would bleed hurts inside and further feels a sense of loss and her own value to the parent.. What can society to do and where could it begin?
Let me describe a process both of engagement and caring. In any school setting there is one or more of those people that touch children deeply and emotionally. Could they be used as interventionists? The first grade teacher that is experiencing difficulties with a student might seek out the kindergarten teacher for help. She had the child.. The football coach; often a revered and respected person in any school is another suggestion.. The risk of going directly to the home is big.. The home situation is a place of privacy.. What is done here.. stays here... Kids rarely report abuse.. Let me repeat that... kids rarely report abuse..
Society has a collective responsibility to find a way to help that hurting child.. Teaching is a calling.. we have all heard that .. teachers are one of the very important keys to support the hurting child. It is, really, the only one.. The parent has failed not for fault of their own but the fault of a system that does not address the dysfunctional family dynamic until it makes the local news.