Bob Tamasy: Why Submission Doesn't Need To Be So Difficult

  • Monday, September 12, 2022
  • Bob Tamasy
Bob Tamasy
Bob Tamasy

There’s a word in the Bible that tends to make the hair stand up on people’s necks. That word is: Submission. Because there’s something within each of us, no matter how old or young, that wants to respond, “Submit? Not me! No way!”

 

I’ve seen this exhibited in each of our children and grandchildren.

As soon as they develop past the point of total dependence, they somehow arrive at the conclusion that they don’t have to do whatever mom or dad, or the grandparents say. Even when we’re clearly asking (or telling) them to do something that’s for their own good, they purse their lips, fold their arms or strike some other pose of defiance.

 

“Eat your food?” “No!” “It’s time to go to bed.” “No!” “Put that cookie down.” “No!” “Come here, put on this shirt (or dress or pair of pants).” “No!”  Believe me, we didn’t have to teach any of them to do that. They learned it all on their own.

 

It doesn’t get any better as we become teenagers or adults. The idea of submitting, whether to parents, teachers, bosses, law enforcement officers, or even the government, makes us cringe. As a result, we find the biblical commands to submit quite troublesome.

 

We find admonitions to submit to spiritual leaders: “Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you” (Hebrews 13:17).

 

Then there’s the command, “Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God” (Romans 13:1). That’s a tough one, whether you’re a Democrat or Republican. But it’s affirmed in another passage: “Submit yourselves for the Lord’s sake to every human authority: whether to the emperor, as the supreme authority…” (1 Peter 2:13).

 

Submission in the realm of work is another biblical admonition: Slaves, in reverent fear of God submit yourselves to your masters, not only to those who are good and considerate, but also to those who are harsh” (1 Peter 2:18). We might not be slaves is a literal sense, but it’s hard to submit to bosses when we’re treated like slaves, isn’t it?

 

Marriage isn’t excluded. In fact, for many this is the most problematic area of submission, since the Bible says, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22). Many wives read this and think, “You’ve got to be kidding. Submit to HIM?! Just as soon as they confirm that the moon’s made of gouda cheese!”

 

But did you know husbands are given a command that’s every bit as demanding, perhaps even more? Because a verse that follows says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25). Consider the extent to which Jesus loved His Church, offering up His own life.

 

And those verses directed toward husbands and wives are preceded by the admonition that we’re to “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Ephesians 5:21).

 

Recently I heard a speaker offer a helpful insight into this matter of submitting. He pointed out that ultimately this means being willing to subordinate oneself to a common mission – sub-mission.

 

Think of a football team as an example, since that’s the particular sports season we’re in at the moment.

The goal of each member of the team is to move the ball down the field and score points, while keeping the opposing team from doing the same.  The center can’t decide, “I’m sick and tired of hiking the ball to the quarterback!”

 

And other offensive linemen can’t stop doing their jobs because, “It’s not fair that the running backs and wide receivers get all the glory!” No, they all willingly – and eagerly – perform their specific assignments because they’re united in a common mission: Outscoring the opponent and winning the game. To submit to one another in that sense does not diminish the importance or value of each. Because when one or more fail to do their jobs, their combined mission is unsuccessful.

 

As followers of Jesus Christ, we shouldn’t step back in rebellion when it’s time to submit to one another. Because ultimately, our mission is to glorify God and advance the work of His kingdom on earth – with a look toward the “new heaven and a new earth,” as described in Revelation 21:1 and 2 Peter 3:13.

 

With these things in mind, we can “Submit therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you…” (James 4:7-8).

 

Romans 12:1-2 does not include the word “submit,” but it’s implied: “Therefore I urge you, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.”

 

Instead of singing, as Frank Sinatra did, “I did it my way,” we understand that it’s better, more joyous and more fulfilling to do it God’s way – even if it means submitting.

 

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Robert J. Tamasy is a veteran journalist, former newspaper editor and magazine editor. Bob has written, co-authored and edited more than 15 books. These include the newly published, ”Marketplace Ambassadors”; “Business At Its Best: Timeless Wisdom from Proverbs for Today’s Workplace”; “Tufting Legacies,” “The Heart of Mentoring,” and “Pursuing Life With a Shepherd’s Heart.” A weekly business meditation he edits, “Monday Manna,” is translated into more than 20 languages and sent via email around the world by CBMC International. The address for his blog is www.bobtamasy.blogspot.com. His email address is btamasy@comcast.net.

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