Cranfield Rowell: I Wish My Imaginary Friend Tom Was Still Around

Wednesday, March 3, 2021

When I was a child, I had an imaginary friend named Tom. He was the best. We did everything together. Then one day Tom wasn’t there. I haven’t seen him since.

To this day, my mother still believes Tom was not real. I get it. She would walk by her son’s room and hear him having a full-blown conversation with someone. All she heard was a one-sided conversation. It never dawned on her that maybe her son just likes to monologue and maybe Tom was not one to interrupt art. My mother went straight into thinking Tom was just an imaginary friend. In hindsight, I wish my mother did not go straight into thinking Tom was imaginary. Her first theory should have been that Tom was a real friend of mine who did not like to be surprised by strangers, and often would hide at new people. Maybe Tom was a ghost? Tom could have been an 18th century ghost befriending a naïve child.

I always appreciated Tom. When I was scared, Tom was there to comfort me. When I felt the need to discuss if Bugs Bunny was the real villain rather than Gossamer, Tom was the voice of reason. Sure, Tom was not great at trust fall exercises but he did offer companionship when the night light did not work as well as it should.

The point I’m making though is whether Tom was real or not, he was there for me when I needed him to be.

Why can’t imaginary friends exist into adulthood? Why do these imaginary friends leave? Tom could have helped me so much later in life. I never learned to dance. I walked into my first middle school dance confident that I would be the next John Travolta. As soon as the first girl reached out her hand, I fast-walked out of the door and decided it was a good time to do my first long-distance night walk. Tom could have been my first dancing partner. Tom could have given me good advice on what to do the first time I saw a bear in the woods because I was lucky that my decision to approach it with a stick did not end with a fatal bear hug. I could have used Tom in my life during many heartbreaks.

I have concluded that imaginary friends are not in our adult lives because they feel like they are not wanted or needed. Imaginary friends feel they are forced to leave society and venture into the realm of peace, the same place where our first pets retire to, but only choose to tell our parents about their new accommodations. 

Let’s invite imaginary friends back into our lives. Long walks on the beach do not have to be lonely anymore. No one has to drink alone anymore. I feel like our politicians would make better decisions if they had someone to talk to rather than no one. Your son has an imaginary friend? Well introduce him to yours. Let’s have a father-friend-son-friend retreat.

Imaginary friends may not been our real friends, but they were our best friends. What is a real friend anyway?

 


Soddy-Daisy Community Library Announces Summer Reading Recommendations, Program And Festival

Collegedale Police Department Begins Process Of Accreditation

Local Organzations Partner To Honor National Poetry Month And Black Women Writers


The Soddy-Daisy Community Library and the KELCURT Foundation will release the SDCL 2021 Summer Reading Recommendations lists, and will announce the Epic Summer of Reading Program on Tuesday, ... (click for more)

Collegedale Police have begun the process of seeking accreditation through the Tennessee Law Enforcement Accreditation Program. Acting Chief Jack Sapp and his administration have committed themselves ... (click for more)

In recognition of National Poetry Month, RISE Chattanooga is partnering with two local organizations—the National Coalition of 100 Black Women, Chattanooga Chapter, Inc. and the Chattanooga Alumnae ... (click for more)



Happenings

Soddy-Daisy Community Library Announces Summer Reading Recommendations, Program And Festival

The Soddy-Daisy Community Library and the KELCURT Foundation will release the SDCL 2021 Summer Reading Recommendations lists, and will announce the Epic Summer of Reading Program on Tuesday, May 4. This program is open to all ages in different categories: Pre-K - second, third - fifth, sixth - eighth, ninth - 12th, and adult. This program is open to anyone residing in or near Hamilton ... (click for more)

Collegedale Police Department Begins Process Of Accreditation

Collegedale Police have begun the process of seeking accreditation through the Tennessee Law Enforcement Accreditation Program. Acting Chief Jack Sapp and his administration have committed themselves to a standard of accountability, not only to the State of Tennessee whose accreditation they will be seeking, but also to the citizens that the city of Collegedale serves. Collegedale ... (click for more)

Breaking News

County School Officials Told No Migrant Students At Temple Dorm To Enroll In County Schools; Aim Is To Reunite Children With Families, Baptiste Group Says

County School officials said in a meeting on Tuesday, a leader of the Baptiste Group said there are no plans for migrant children at a former Tennessee Temple dorm to attend county schools. School officials said they were told that the program is a short-term placement for children and is focused on reunification of children and families. The Baptiste Group plans to ... (click for more)

Tim Kelly Is New Chattanooga Mayor; Jenny Hill, Isiah Hester Win City Council Races

Tim Kelly was far ahead in the Chattanooga mayor's runoff election after early vote totals and the first 20 precincts were released. He quickly declared himself the winner, and he finished ahead by over 5,000 votes. He won 15,966 to 10,661. Among early voters, it was Kelly 8,623 to 4,988 for Kim White, former president of the River City Company who was vying to be the city's ... (click for more)

Opinion

A Mayoral Race To Be Proud Of

It was very refreshing for both candidates to only speak to their strengths for the entire campaign while not dragging each other through the mud and acting like third graders as it too often the case with political campaigns. It was even more refreshing to see such a humble victory and a gracious defeat as both candidates appeared to be extremely supportive of one another ... (click for more)

Roy Exum: Kelly Gallops To Mayor

Tim Kelly, betting heavily on himself by spending over $1 million of his own money and divesting of a widely respected auto dealership in order to be fully focused, was hailed as a winner Tuesday night. The personable Kelly was greeted with open arms as Chattanooga’s newest Mayor when he outlasted another quite capable candidate, Kim White. In what was expected to be a nose-to-nose ... (click for more)